Miracles in the Belly

Miracles in the stomach

I will never forget the first time I saw my son: three months before his birth on the monitor of an ultrasound machine. He sucked his thumb and nodded his head rhythmically. Mothers will understand me: at such a moment you think: “What will he be like?” Of course, we cannot observe with our own eyes how the baby develops, but medicine, psychology and other sciences have accumulated a lot of data about what happens to the child, from the fusion of parental cells to the birth of a completely viable creature.

Candidates of psychological sciences Elena Mogilevskaya (founder of the special department of prenatal psychology and psychology of parenthood at Rostov State University) and Elena Agnaeva (child psychotherapist) told us a lot of interesting and unusual things about the intrauterine development of a person.

At the moment when the entire future person is placed in a single cell (zygote), much in him is already predetermined. Health reserves, temperament type, appearance traits - this is the basis from which your child’s unique personality will subsequently develop. During the first weeks after conception, a person is a clot of cells, but already at this time, two opposing forces mature and come into conflict in the child’s soul - the desire for life and the desire for death.

The entire future life of an unborn person largely depends on how exactly this contradiction is resolved. The determining factor here is how much the parents need the new person. Moreover, it is paradoxical that the most harmful thing for the unborn baby is not the hostility and rejection of the mother, but her doubt.

Being in a situation of uncertainty, while the mother thinks about whether to keep the child, the fetus experiences severe stress. Therefore, parents should hurry up with their decision. If you still understand that you want to have a baby, then you need to have an honest conversation with him.

The older the fetus becomes in the womb, the more varied it reacts to the influences of the outside world. If at the beginning of pregnancy the baby is a helpless lump of living tissue, then before birth it is an already formed person, completely viable and active.

Scientists believe that already a five-month-old fetus reacts emotionally to its mother’s calls to it and, most likely, understands them well. Psychologists advise pregnant women to talk to their baby as if it were a three-year-old child who was already born. By constructing her speech from simple, clear and emotionally charged phrases, the mother can fully count on the fact that the fetus will correctly understand everything that is said.

Having learned about pregnancy, mothers should adhere to the following rules:

1. Decide on your attitude towards your unborn child as soon as possible;

2. If you decide that pregnancy is desired, but after some doubts, you should not blame yourself for them, it is better to calm down and tune in to communicate with the baby;

3. Talk to your child, tell him how much you love him;

4. If possible, rid yourself of stressful situations, unpleasant conversations and anything that can upset you and your child;

5. The child is not your property! The main value of a new being is not at all that it is your continuation; remember that your child is an independent person, with his own aspirations, desires and plans, with a unique purpose in this life; your task is to joyfully accept his appearance and help realize his own inclinations.