More About Sex During Pregnancy

Sergey and Alena fully corresponded to all the secret and obvious aspirations of their mothers and fathers. They loved each other selflessly, dated for a long time, met each other's parents and even wrote romantic poems. Everything is like in the best love films of the middle of the last century. Perhaps this was facilitated by the morals of a small provincial town, perhaps by the strict upbringing of young people.

For the time being, everything was developing quite well. The newlyweds did not have much intimate experience, so they enjoyed each other to the fullest. Many times Sergei came to work sleep-deprived, but extremely happy. Alena spent several hours telling her mother about her adorable little cat, who became for her not just a husband, but the meaning of life.

And then Alena’s figure began to change. The girl was preparing to become a mother. When her belly began to grow, Sergei’s attitude towards Alena began to change before our eyes. Sexual desire almost completely disappeared - at times he was afraid to even kiss his young wife.

But the girl especially yearned for her former closeness with Sergei. Just wait, daughter, everything will come back, think only about the baby now,” the mother consoled. But Alena felt truly abandoned. And I was very afraid that Sergei would leave for another, thin woman. And I went to the doctor.

Don't be afraid of love!

It’s amazing how not alone Alena turned out to be. On her first visit to a sex therapist, she met two pregnant women who also came to complain about their cold husbands. One of them was 25-year-old Nadya.

1. When, in the fifth month, I had a rather noticeable belly, I felt that my husband treated me a little cooler than before,” Nadezhda said. - After some time, he admitted that in this form I do not excite him and he would like to refrain from intimacy. Everything would be fine, but at this time I constantly wanted to make love.

Alena and Nadya learned from a specialist that pregnancy is not at all an obstacle to sexual relations. Although, of course, official medicine considers pregnancy to be not the best time for sex. This is explained simply - uterine contractions during orgasm are similar to prenatal contractions. The child, in theory, feels discomfort.

However, sex therapists say the opposite: long-term abstinence from sex contributes to the formation of great psychological discomfort. Simply put, a woman is more often nervous and freaking out. But the child is closely connected with his mother during these months. And she conveys all emotions, both positive and negative, to the child. Quite recently, a discovery was made: pleasure hormones - endorphins, which are produced at the moment of orgasm, give the child pleasure!

Moreover, orgasmic contractions of the uterus are beneficial for the child precisely because they resemble labor contractions. The child develops a conditioned reflex: contractions of the uterus are pleasure. This means that when real labor begins, the first emotion will also be pleasure. And don’t believe gynecologists who say that sexual activity should be stopped after seven months of pregnancy! This statement is painfully reminiscent of the old folk stupidity that a passionate man can drill a child’s head. Firstly, this is impossible in principle, because the child is in amniotic fluid. Secondly, stimulation of the vagina and uterus is primarily muscle training. Without it, giving birth will be more difficult.

How to bring joy to each other

The girls seemed to be convinced of the possibility and even necessity of sex for pregnant women. But how can we convince husbands of this, who often turn their noses up at their greatly changed wives? First of all, it is necessary to understand what exactly the spouse is afraid of or does not want. Maybe he is simply afraid of somehow harming the child or his future mother. In this case, consulting a good doctor who will dissuade the man from his fears can really help the matter.