Memo to Parent from Child

Don't spoil me. You're spoiling me with this. I know very well that it is not necessary to provide me with everything I request. I'm just testing you.
Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer this approach. This allows me to determine my place.
Don't rely on force in your relationship with me. This will teach me that only strength needs to be taken into account. I will respond more readily to your initiatives.
Don't be inconsistent. This confuses me and makes me try harder to have the last word in all cases.
Don't make promises that you can't keep, it will shake my faith in you.
Do not give in to my provocations when I say or do something just to upset you, otherwise I will then try to achieve even greater victories.
Don't get too upset when I say: I hate you, I don't mean it literally. I just want you to regret what you did to me.
Don't make me feel younger than I really am. I will take it out on you for this by becoming a crybaby and a whiner.
Don't do for me and for me what I can do for myself. I can continue to use you as a servant.
Don't let my bad habits attract too much of your attention to me. This will only inspire me to continue them.
Don't correct me in front of strangers. I will pay much more attention to your remark if you tell me everything calmly, face to face.
Don't try to discuss my behavior in the midst of a conflict. For some objective reasons, my hearing becomes dull at this time, and my desire to cooperate with you becomes much weaker. It will be okay if you take certain steps, but talk to me about this a little later.
Don't make me feel like what I'm doing is a mortal sin. I have to learn to make mistakes without feeling like I'm no good.
Don't nag me or nag me. If you do this, I will be forced to defend myself by pretending to be deaf.
Don't ask me to explain why I did this. Sometimes I myself don’t know why I act this way and not otherwise.
Don't test my integrity too much. When intimidated, I easily turn into a liar.
Don't forget that I love to experiment. This is how I experience the world, so please accept it.
Don't protect me from the consequences of my own mistakes. I learn from my own experience.
Don't pay too much attention to my little ailments. I can enjoy feeling bad if it brings too much attention to me.
Don't try to get rid of me when I ask honest questions. If you do not answer them, you will see that I will stop asking you questions altogether and will look for information somewhere on the side.
Don't answer stupid and meaningless questions. If you do this, you will soon discover that I just want you to deal with me constantly.
Never even hint that you are perfect and infallible. This gives me a sense of the futility of trying to compare with you.
Don't worry that we don't spend enough time together. It's how we spend it that matters.
Let my fears and concerns not cause you concern, otherwise I will be even more afraid. Show me what courage is.
Do not forget that I cannot develop successfully without understanding and approval, but praise, when it is honestly deserved, is sometimes forgotten. And it seems like never a scolding.
Treat me the same way you treat your friends. Then I will also become your friend. Remember that I learn by imitating examples rather than by being criticized.
And besides, I love you. Please answer me with love. Let's strive to listen and hear our children!